The Sitches manifesto

We know you're a mess.

So are we. That's rather the point. Here are eight things we believe, in writing, so you can hold us to them.

  1. Situationships are real relationships.

    The space between a hookup and a boyfriend is where most of gay life actually happens. Every other app pretends otherwise and sells you either a fairy tale or a meat market. We build for the middle: the regular, the maybe, the it's-complicated. No judgement, just product.

  2. You're never exposed alone.

    Vulnerability on Sitches is mutual by design. Your kinks, your status, your red flags are visible only to people who shared theirs too. If someone can read you, you can read them. Nobody gets outed by a profile field.

  3. Your location is a zone, not a point.

    For Radar, the server snaps you into a hex about 200 metres wide before storing the Radar position. Radar raw GPS is never returned by the API. Optional trusted-friend sharing and Scout use separate exact-coordinate records. What we don't keep, nobody can leak, buy, or subpoena.

  4. We are not in the data business.

    No ads sold on your behaviour. No location brokering. No "trusted partners". You pay 99p at the door and maybe a subscription, and that is the entire business model. It means you are the customer, not the product.

  5. You can't filter people by race here.

    Show your ethnicity if you want. Nobody can search by it, ever. We're not pretending the scene doesn't have a racism problem. We're refusing to build tools for it.

  6. Bans come with reasons. Appeals get humans.

    Every competitor bans people into a void marked "final decision". On Sitches you will always know which rule you broke, and a human reads your appeal within 48 hours. Moderation is a service, not a trapdoor.

  7. Honest pricing, on purpose.

    When you don't run an ad machine or a data pipeline, an honest price is enough. We will publish ours before we ask anyone to pay it.

  8. Gay men first, not gay men only.

    We launch where we can be dense enough to be useful: gay men in London. Lesbian, trans, and bi spaces follow as real communities with their own rooms, not checkboxes on a settings screen.